Growing up as a gender bending queer taught me a few things about America. It taught me you can choke a child into unconsciousness in front of a crowd and everyone (adults included) will just watch and laugh. It taught me you can publicly beat someone’s face most days of the week, and because being a queer is by nature an act of incitement, you’re the one that gets charged. It taught me you can have a bag pulled over your head, be pulled into a van, pummeled by a gang for a mile, dumped in the street, and cars will just drive around you instead of stopping to help you up. It taught me that you can have fingers shoved up your ass in a stairwell, repeatedly, and no one will do a god-damn thing about it because as a queer being raped in the ass is what you must want. It taught me that police can drag you out of your car, throw you face first into the cement, put their knee in your neck while their partner cuts up your car night after night with no cause, and then just laugh it off when nothing turns up. It taught me that you can reach the cusp of suicide repeatedly and no one will ever know. It taught me that many of those who commit suicide will be minimized as “troubled” teens. It taught me, at a young age, that if you are on the wrong side of the majority in America, you’re absolutely powerless.
But mostly it taught me that political and social policy are engaged in a dance that can kill motherfuckers without anyone batting an eye. And that’s just the experience of some privileged white kid that likes make-up and women’s fashion. I can’t begin to imagine the experience of the black community, the immigrant community, and all of the other groups in the US that have truly monstrous forces aligned against them.
So when you say #BernieOrBust, or when you say #VotingDoesntMatter, or when you say anything that equates to supporting politicians who promise to take us backwards to those days, you’re being nothing more than an onlooker in an assault on those around you. There’s a reason why the vast majority of non-whites support a Clinton presidency regardless if they are also Sanders supporters, and why a majority of LGBTQ do as well… because they know how easy it is to be thrown under the bus and what it actually means. At least Trump supporters will tell it to you straight. I can respect someone who tells you what they believe, even if it’s wrong. But to say you’re aligned with equal rights, human rights, and then suggest throwing people’s hard earned rights away because your point matters more than gay lives/black lives/poor lives/immigrant lives; because you’re deluded enough to think revolution will actually come and that you’re prepared for it because you’ve watched enough episodes of The Walking Dead; because you don’t understand what it’s like to be warped by fists and the hot breath of society on the back of your neck before you ever had a chance to find your voice… that’s just fucked.
It’s the job of the status-quo to listen to the voices on the outside and work to include and protect them. Regardless of my personal experiences, I’m part of this status-quo as much as most of you are, and it’s our job to listen to more than just our personal rage from our golden privilege being fucked with.
At the end of the day vote for who you want and be proud to do so. Don’t let me, my rant, or anyone else make you feel ashamed about your choices. But know what those choices actually mean, and learn to look everyone you’re fucking in the eye when you do it. Trump’s supporters are honest enough to give that courtesy, and so should you.
Now we can all go back to being friends. I love you all.